"We need to make clear that violence is gendered when it stems from the destructive notions of masculinity that involve emphasis on violence and control — that how much of a man you are depends on how tough you are and how much you have sex. The other side of that coin is destructive notions of femininity: good girls don’t complain, don’t get angry, but are dutifully to men. It’s through challenging these destructive notions that we can challenge gendered violence."(Modus dopens)